Making a personal observation: Why is it that people just seem to automatically congratulate people starting to date? Is singlehood in the world's eyes, then, just a "burden" we hafta bear until we are "released"? Granted, I am happy for my friends when they find their other halves, but my attitude towards them is not of, "Wow, so lucky, you're finally out of the rut!"
The time you have as a single is pretty brief when you consider the decades of marriage you will have over it (should your marriage not end up in divorce, that is). You are only young once. Nothing's wrong with you because you aren't taken.
Speaking for myself again, I have been becoming increasingly convicted of my heart's reactions towards couples, which has been mostly based on envy and bitterness. Now it's apparent that I was just being swayed by the world's opinions on that matter. There is an urgency in my spirit to connect with God as a single woman because the way I see it, there isn't much more of it left. Make time count, my single ladies and gents.
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Saturday, January 21, 2012
Snow!
Snowed in New York and it's all pretty and such.
And the perfect song to go with the mood.
Oh, by all means, IU is not my favorite singer or anything. She (or her peeps) just happens to be good at remaking songs I like.
가사:
멀어져 가는 저 뒷모습을 바라보면서 난 아직도 이 순간을 이별이라 하지 않겠네 달콤했었지 그 수많았던 추억속에서 흠뻑 젖은 두 마음을 우린 어떻게 잊을까 아- 다시 올거야 너는 외로움을 견딜 수 없어 아- 나의 곁으로 다시 돌아 올거야 그러나 그 시절에 너를 또 만나서 사랑할 수 있 을까 흐르는 그 세월에 나는 또 얼마나 많은 눈물을 흘리려나
And the perfect song to go with the mood.
Oh, by all means, IU is not my favorite singer or anything. She (or her peeps) just happens to be good at remaking songs I like.
가사:
멀어져 가는 저 뒷모습을 바라보면서 난 아직도 이 순간을 이별이라 하지 않겠네 달콤했었지 그 수많았던 추억속에서 흠뻑 젖은 두 마음을 우린 어떻게 잊을까 아- 다시 올거야 너는 외로움을 견딜 수 없어 아- 나의 곁으로 다시 돌아 올거야 그러나 그 시절에 너를 또 만나서 사랑할 수 있 을까 흐르는 그 세월에 나는 또 얼마나 많은 눈물을 흘리려나
Friday, January 20, 2012
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
How to Survive in the First World
You just need a few people in your life:
A good-
1) doctor
2) lawyer
3) mechanic
4) hairdresser/barber
5) accountant
6) real estate agent
Because in the first world order, it's rare to get honest help and not feel like you're constantly getting ripped off. Nothing brings someone more grief than having to deal with shoddy service from any of the above.
A good-
1) doctor
2) lawyer
3) mechanic
4) hairdresser/barber
5) accountant
6) real estate agent
Because in the first world order, it's rare to get honest help and not feel like you're constantly getting ripped off. Nothing brings someone more grief than having to deal with shoddy service from any of the above.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Identity Through Commitment
For those of you that are on a grueling journey to find themselves, here's what gave me freedom:
"Some people ask who they are and expect their feelings to tell them. But feelings are flickering flames that fade after every fitful stimulus. Some people ask who they are and expect their achievements to tell them. But the things we accomplish always leave a core of character unrevealed. Some people ask who they are and expect visions of their ideal self to tell them. But our visions can only tell us what we want to be, not what we are.....
....I am not fated, I am not determined, I am not a lump of human dough whipped into shape by the contingent reinforcement and aversive conditioning of my past. I know as well as the next person that I cannot create my life de novo; I am well aware that much of what I am and what I do is a gift or a curse from my past. But when I make a promise to anyone, I rise above all the conditioning that limits me. No German shepherd ever promised to be there with me. No home computer ever promised to be a loyal help...Only a person can make a promise. And when he does, he is most free." - Lewis Smedes, Christian ethicist.
I know the ideas are a bit jumpy but here's my takeaway point: If you don't know who you are yet, that's fine. But we always need to be in a journey of faith that allows us to jump in, and perhaps that involves making commitments even if you don't know it's suited for you. Because it's your present yes's and no's that show who you are.
Addendum: Although your past choices do not define you at present (Jesus took care of that on the cross), you have to admit it does shape/influence you for future decisions.
"Some people ask who they are and expect their feelings to tell them. But feelings are flickering flames that fade after every fitful stimulus. Some people ask who they are and expect their achievements to tell them. But the things we accomplish always leave a core of character unrevealed. Some people ask who they are and expect visions of their ideal self to tell them. But our visions can only tell us what we want to be, not what we are.....
....I am not fated, I am not determined, I am not a lump of human dough whipped into shape by the contingent reinforcement and aversive conditioning of my past. I know as well as the next person that I cannot create my life de novo; I am well aware that much of what I am and what I do is a gift or a curse from my past. But when I make a promise to anyone, I rise above all the conditioning that limits me. No German shepherd ever promised to be there with me. No home computer ever promised to be a loyal help...Only a person can make a promise. And when he does, he is most free." - Lewis Smedes, Christian ethicist.
I know the ideas are a bit jumpy but here's my takeaway point: If you don't know who you are yet, that's fine. But we always need to be in a journey of faith that allows us to jump in, and perhaps that involves making commitments even if you don't know it's suited for you. Because it's your present yes's and no's that show who you are.
Addendum: Although your past choices do not define you at present (Jesus took care of that on the cross), you have to admit it does shape/influence you for future decisions.
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Good Advice
Been receiving some good, timely advice concerning work, relationships, future, and family. The tendency for me is to take things way too cautiously, where I try to determine "once and for all" before embarking on anything even sort of challenging. God created everyone very uniquely, but we're not such big deals. Stop taking things so seriously and enjoy yourself. The world is not that big of a deal.
Also very grateful that I can rely on Godly, biblical counselors and friends to give me a hodgepodge of perspectives on the same subjects. Feels like I get a healthy balance of ideas where I'm not just trying to hear things that makes me feel comfortable, and as a result my thoughts about certain major topics in my life have radically shifted.
Also very grateful that I can rely on Godly, biblical counselors and friends to give me a hodgepodge of perspectives on the same subjects. Feels like I get a healthy balance of ideas where I'm not just trying to hear things that makes me feel comfortable, and as a result my thoughts about certain major topics in my life have radically shifted.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
iSuck
I hate feeling useless, but that was exactly what I had to endure during the last two weeks. It resulted from a combination of other very capable leaders, my lack of experience (which resulted in bad decisions), and new environments. Although it was nice in a way to get to turn off the Alpha female switch for once and get back in touch with introverted side, I realized I still don't know anything about anything and it has been an otherwise humbling experience. Situations where you realize you don't know jack are awesome. I'm thankful.
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